As promised, here’s where we left on the last post about “Act like a lady but think like a man”. In this occasion, Steve Harvey talks about the ninety days rule: How to earn the respect that women deserve.
It’s about an advice for women whom Steve Harvey offers in his book and it’s about making a man wait ninety days for the major prize, you know what I’m talking about hahaha. He points out that by doing this we can tell if we earned a man’s respect who realized that it was worth waiting. We, women, fail by thinking that if a man doesn’t get the sex the way he wants, he’ll go get it somewhere else and we’ll lose the opportunity to be with him. That’s a lie! Steve says women shouldn’t give up on that power. Just give in to the man who earned it.
How should a man react when you tell him that you have a problem? Real men strive for the women they care about.
How should he react under pressure? If he’s all about protecting you or fixing what’s wrong, then he sees you as his woman and is worth it being with him.
How should he react when it comes to bad news? If it's worth it being with him, then he will always be by your side no matter how bad the circumstances may seem.
How should he react when you say the word “NO”? When a man asks for sex and you say no, his reaction will tell you everything you need to know about him. If he says something stupid like “I don’t have to wait to have sex, I can have sex with anyone I want”, you answer “please, do it”. This separates what’s worthwhile and what’s not in a second.
If you introduce him to the kids after you decided that he is “THE RIGHT ONE”, it will be too late…
Men must know from the beginning what they’re going to take care of. For prevention, you must introduce him to the kids from the beginning in the most natural and casual way possible so they can build a healthier connection. He’s going to watch all of this and will to try to figure out what kind of mother you are and if he would like you to be his children’s mother. This, ladies, is very important. Men can tell if a woman is meant to be a mother or no. It’s even more important the fact that you should introduce him to the kids to see how he develops on a paternal role. After all, you want the man of your life to be a good example for your kids, someone capable of coping them when they’re misbehaving or need to be corrected. A man who genuinely wants to be a part of your life is going to try to be a part of your children’s life as well. He won’t give up.
Some signs you need to see in order to know if he’s going to be a good father are:
· He tells you he likes kids and that he hopes to have one in the future.
· He interested about meeting your children and getting to know them better.
· He comes up with an outlet for the kids and invites them.
· He’s got a good job and a good work record.
· He’s kind to his mother and is always looking after her to make sure she’s okay. The “mommy’s little boys” doesn’t count.
· He’s got a pet which he feeds and takes care of.
· He’s got a clean house and knows how to cook some decent dishes.
Strong, independent and lonely women…
Men are really simple creatures that would do really simple things if it wasn’t for women. They’re their ultimate prize.
The way a man shows his love is by stating, providing and protecting. This means that men are thankful when women let them know that they need them. They want to feel like they’re indispensable. Nobody is telling women that they should give up to their money, their job, their education, their pride and their dignity. Just act like ladies! When you go out on a date with a man, let him open the door for you and treat you like a lady.
Valuing a man doesn’t impair your confidence or self-esteem, is the best way to get the best from him. And the best way to value a man is by being a lady and allowing him to act like a gentleman.
¿How to be a lady on a date?
· Don’t tell him where you’d like to go: Tell him what kind of food and environment you like and let him pick a place you’ll love.
· Don’t tell him you’ll be driving: let him take you here you should go.
· Don’t tell him you’ll pay half: let him pay for everything.
¿How to be a lady at home?
· Don’t try to fix the sink, the car, the toilet or anything: Let him do that.
· Don’t be the one taking out the trash, painting the walls or cutting the grass: That’s his job.
· Don’t lift heavy thing: He was born with the necessary muscle to lift couches, TVs, bookshelves and more.
· Don’t be afraid of cooking one or two dishes for him.
· Don’t sleep with t-shirts every night.
¿How to get the ring?
For many men marriage falls into the category of eating vegetables: it's something you know you should do, but it is better to postpone it and eating a juicy, salty and full of fat hamburger with a mountain of fries. They’re happy that way; singleness makes them feel young and happy. Marriage doesn’t. Of course, men have very clear that women want to get married. In addition, the only reason why men delay the date or don’t make the proposal is because their women don’t demand it.
The calendar is yours: Don’t give up on your power. It’s not about asking your partner to marry you, it’s about letting that 1945 mentality behind and stop waiting for him to ask you to marry him, talk about it! Demand it!
Well, now you know girls, I recommend 100% getting this book which I got in Sanborns. Take notes and win the heart of the man of your dreams.
See you guys later.
Kisses,
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