I confess that I was so exhausted after my final tests week at college that it was kind of hard to get inspiration to write again. Today, Sunday, well rested, I thought about reorganizing my priorities and return to something that I really love: Writing.
At first I thought about writing a summary about a highly recommended book: Rich dad, poor dad; but the truth is that I don’t want to post my impressions until I don’t finish reading it. So I decided to write down some comments about how I face love in time of crisis, or to be clearer, how I’ve survived to love letdowns. I’ve told you before; talking about love it’s not necessarily my thing and I’m no psychologist either; but something I can tell you is that I am a fighter and nobody escapes from a bad love (including myself); that’s why I brought some tips about how I’ve overcame all of those hard times that now are only good memories that have made of me a stronger and more mature person.
· First of all is “acceptance”, in fact, that’s the hardest thing. Accepting that “it’s over” is a step you have to make with determination. I can’t lie to you, I was one of those persons who was always thinking “he’s going to come back” or “he’s going to change”. Well, ladies and gentleman, things are the way they are. Either you take things how they are or live in a lie stuck in time. Life goes on so don’t stop moving forward for anything or anyone. Most likely he or she already moved on and you’re still wasting your time and energy. Don’t fall into that circle! The strength is in you! And remember, what is destined for, you will return sooner or later, and if not, is because there’s something better out there; but don’t wait for anything, just keep your own path.
· Once you accept the reality; take away all the memories. It can be really hard but it’s necessary. Try not to stalk him/her, don’t listen to music that makes you think about him/her and don’t check every five minutes the last time he/she was online on Whatsapp. I’m sure you’re smiling right now; well, I’m just like you and I make the same mistakes as you.
· The best medicine for a broken heart is TO GET A DISTRACTION AND CLEAR YOUR MIND. It worked with me. Reborn! Sit down and organize your day, your week, and your life. Build a busy schedule so you don’t have time to think about unnecessary things. And when his/her face comes to your mind, replace that thought with the path you need to follow to reach your life goals. Go to the movies, shopping, spoil yourself at a beauty salon, go out and dance, set yourself the goal to lose those extra pounds and make your dreams come true. You need to be your number one priority.
· It’s always good to let your feelings out but with the right person Invite to dinner that friend or person you trust and who can give you good advice. Cry if you need to cry, scream if you need to scream, but most important, do exactly what makes you feel good except going after him/her! Sometimes we think that’s what makes us feel good; but no, that would mean fall into a never ending circle.
· Open your eyes! Make new friends. Look at the amount of men and women of all sizes and colors that you can find on earth. You can be 100% sure that one of those people is going to be for you, you just need to be patient.
· Read. This is one of the best advices that I can give you. Reading took me out of that black hole I was and filled me with optimism when I was heartbroken. Read about the positive thinking and the power it has on the universe. Take refuge in the good vibes and faith that there is a God who has mysterious decisions, always taken in our favor.
· Another tip I give you is to help other people. Sharing and give away smiles help you feel in peace with yourself.
· There’s people who lose weight when they’re going through a break up, like me when I’ve been through a love letdown I’ve lost some weight; but I’ve also gained weight in other occasions. Why? Because we try to fill that void either with food, shopping or partying until dawn. Be careful with that! I perfectly know how hard it is; but nothing or nobody can lift you up more than yourself. Let go! True love is free, is the one that’s present without pressure, is the one that wants y decides to be present.
Do you want to feel more related to me? I got my heart broken so bad one time that I lost two subjects in college because I didn’t want to get out of bed. I lost 15 pounds in a month, I became distant with my family and I started partying and shopping like crazy. Then, the bounce of those 15 pounds I got was unstoppable, and being swallowed by that dark hole was unbearable. How did I get out of it? Reading books about personal growth and organizing my life the way it should be. I got inspiration from the pain I felt to reach all the goals I set myself and make all of those dreams I’ve postponed a reality, so I started working on it. That made me very happy. At the end of the day, love comes by itself and at the right moment. Let life surprise you.
If I can, you can too. Nobody has died from love; in fact, all of those falls have made of me a stronger person, with so much more control of my emotions and a better woman. Take advantage of those moments of crisis, they say that in these moments there are the ones that cry and the ones that sell tissues. Only you can decide what you want to do. There’s only one life, and every day that passes is a day less in your life. Be grateful for the opportunity of living this life and make of your life a worth telling story, be proud of who you are and the fact that you can survive love in time of crisis. Me, at my 24 years old, I feel so proud of all the times that my heart has been broken, because today they’re scars that show the challenges I’ve overcame. I’m also aware that this is part of life and the fact that it can happen to me again. If that’s the case, here I am to stand up against that again. Are you with me?
Kisses,
Sheldry.
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