Hello boys and girls, I’ve been kind of lost around here since last week; the thing is that I am remodeling my apartment and it’s taking longer than I expected. Being honest, this has been a really interesting experience; I’ve learnt a lot! You have no idea. The good thing is that I am documenting everything, that way I can show how it went with a little video and a post with some tips about my failures and successes with this remodeling. I’m making my dreams come true! It’s worth saving! But this is not that simple… You’ll see everything that’s happened in the last few days, I can’t wait to tell you everything about it.
On the other hand, while I was doing a general cleaning to dump what wasn’t useful, give away what I thought I didn’t need and send to Chitré what didn’t fit here… I found this amazing book that I really love: “Act like a lady but think like a man”. I showed you the first part of this book. As I had lost it I hadn’t been able to write the second and third part; the good news is that I found the book so here goes the second and third part of this #1 BESTSELLER of the NEW YORK TIMES: What men really think about love, intimacy, relationships and commitment.
SECOND PART. WHY MEN DO WHAT THEY DO?
When a man reaches to you, he’s got a plan. And the main plan is to sleep with you or finding out what he needs to do to sleep with you. Men always want something. Always! When it comes to men, women are either disposable material or a long relationship material.
How do men know which one is the type of women that want to get married and the ones that just want to have fun?
Let’s begin with the ones that always want to have fun: These women don’t have any rules, requirements or self-respect. I assure you, a man knows a woman by the way she express herself with words or actions and when he realizes he can treat her that way he wants, he'll be thrilled to do it.
The type of woman to get married doesn’t give in so easily; she establish rules and limits once you open your mouth for the first time. Girls, you have to handle what you can control: their image, the way they behave and the way they allow other men to talk to you. Use your potential to get the relationship you want. The best thing a woman can do is to let everything clear from the beginning of the relationship.
Now, why are men unfaithful? Sex can be something purely physical for men and love doesn’t have anything to do with it. For women, unfaithfulness is betrayal, for a man is a way to recharge his energy. That cold, that selfish, and doesn’t have anything to do with you, don’t take it personal.
Reality is women have more power than they think they do, to control the things that happen: They have the power of persuasion, intuition, conviction and the option to set rules that safeguard them. Sometimes is necessary for a man to lose what he has so he can appreciate it.
THIRD PART. GAME RULES: HOW TO WIN THE GAME?
Me like decency, so women, delicately address the situation, looking for the best way to express what you want to a man without begging. On the other hand, how do you expect to know how creative, exciting or generous a man can be if you show him the exact map to draw a smile on your face? Instead of telling him everything you like, just tell him what you dislike and see how he handles it.
This is a very important tip: Five questions all women must ask themselves before being emotionally involved with someone else.
1. What are your short-term goals? Men love to talk about themselves. Think if you see yourself into the short-term plans; that way you’ll know if you want to be a part of it and what would be your role in them.
2. What are your long-term plans? And if he doesn’t have a plan, why would you want him to be with you? Don’t bind yourself or your life to someone who doesn’t have any plans, because you’ll find out that if he’s not going anywhere, sooner or later, you won’t either.
3. What’s your opinion about relationships? First of all, find out what he thinks about family. Second of all, ask him about his relationship with his mother. If a man constantly argues with his mother, don't have any doubt that the pattern is going to repeat with you. After finding out how’s his relationship with his mother, ask him about his father. Depending on what he answers, you’ll find out what kind of father he may be. If you know a man who doesn’t have a relationship with God, doesn’t go to church or doesn't have the willing to go and doesn’t have the support of a system of beliefs that guide him, there’s a problem. After all, how’s he going to measure the morals or good behavior if he doesn’t believe in God?
4. What do you think about me? If he can be specific it means that he’s been watching and calculating if he can be in a relationship with you.
5. What do you feel for me? If a man can’t tell you what he feels for you after a month, is because he doesn’t feel anything. Men aren’t good with emotions, not at all, and if you don’t see any display of affection so maybe they’re not in love; but he’s crazy for you and maybe he’s looking for ways to explore the relationship and make it a long term commitment.
Press the brake until you hear the things that you think are important and when you feel that he’s the man with whom you want to build a relationship. Men are aware that they have to answer all those questions. Real men are willing to answer them.
Well boys and girl, this doesn’t end here, I still need to tell you what a read about “The ninety days rule you need to earn the respect you deserve”, and being honest, I put it on practice hahaha… But I don’t want to take away more of your time with the reading so I’ll leave those summary points for the next blog post.
I hope you’ve enjoyed this as much as I did by reading this again, we’ll keep in touch.
Kisses,
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